As much as we all love our parents, there are some things about them that we just can’t stand. For example, some people find their parents to be too strict when it comes to parenting. While this may seem like the right way to go at first, it can have negative consequences on the child’s development and future relationships. This is because strict parenting can create anxiety in children. Parents need to understand that it’s their responsibility to ensure that the child – or young adult – they are raising becomes a well-adjusted individual who is prepared for life.
What is Strict Parenting?
To begin with, let’s define what being “strict” means. Strict parenting means that parents set very high standards for their children and do not accept any behavior that deviates from these expectations.
Strict parents also tend to emphasize punishment more than positive consequences. They may believe in the adage “spare the rod, spoil the child” and use physical punishments such as spanking or hitting which reinforce this belief.
The strict parent sets many rules and also enforces discipline rigorously. This means that the children have to follow several rules or they will be punished, sometimes severely. Because it can be difficult for a child to always keep track of all the rules that he or she is expected to follow, parents may feel it necessary to constantly be on top of their child, watching their every move.
The Pros and Cons of Strict Parenting
Now that we have a better understanding of what strict parenting is, let’s take a look at the pros and cons of this approach.
1) Strict parenting can result in children who are obedient and well-behaved.
2) It can teach children how to follow rules and limits, which can be beneficial later in life.
3) Strict parenting can help children develop a sense of responsibility at an early age.
4) It can prepare children for the challenges they will face later in life.
1) Strict parenting can make children feel less emotionally close to their parents.
2) It can create a fear of displeasing the parents in children, which could result in increased feelings of anxiety when confronting problems in life. In other words, it may teach them that they should not bring up any problems they are having because they may not want to deal with the potential punishment.
3) Strict parenting can lead to children feeling stressed and anxious.
4) It can interfere with children’s development of a sense of independence and autonomy.
5) Strict parenting can damage the relationship between parents and children.
How to Use Strict Parenting Responsibly
Now that we’ve taken a look at the pros and cons of this approach, it’s time to learn how parents can use such an approach in a way that benefits their children. As mentioned before, strict parenting creates anxiety in children. This is why you need to monitor your behavior and control your emotions.
Instead of getting angry when the child behaves inappropriately, focus on communicating your wishes to your child so he or she understands what you want from them.