10 Parenting guidelines for raising a child

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Having a child that has special needs is extremely difficult and requires much effort, but it doesn’t come close to describing the challenges that parents go through as their children grow older and become adults. Raising an adult child with special needs can be exponentially more difficult than raising a healthy child – for example, now there’s your health to consider. Today we will take a look at 10 different areas of focus for parents of a special needs child. This isn’t intended to be a comprehensive list, but it should offer some helpful advice on how you can make life easier on yourself and help your loved one achieve his or her goals. With any luck, all of these tips will prove useful in your son or daughter’s basic life.

Never discipline your children when you are angry:

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It’s tempting to slap a child when she has dumped her cereal on the floor for the third time, but this is not effective because the parent is in an emotionally aroused state and will not be thinking rationally. Also, it can result in negative effects, such as anxiety and depression; because children need their parent’s guidance and love more than anything else.

Don’t indulge all of your child’s desires:

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There needs to be a balance between pampering them and over-protecting them from experiencing life. If they get everything they want at once, there won’t be any incentive to work hard or experience many different things (such as moving house), which could affect how well they function in the future.

Don’t let your child do whatever they want:

This one is self-explanatory. If you let them, children will lie in bed all day, eat chocolate for breakfast and stay up until midnight watching TV programs that are well above their age range. It’s not good for them to exist inside a bubble- especially when it comes to learning about responsibility, because if they don’t learn these things at a young age they will be severely lacking when they’re older.

Teach your children about economics by taking away some of their pocket money regularly:

Many parents don’t even care whether or not their kids have worked to earn what they receive from them, which isn’t teaching them anything. If you take a small amount away from them each week, they will be more inclined to save up and spend sensibly to accumulate enough money to buy whatever it is that they want.

Don’t always hug your children or tell them that you love them:

These kisses and cuddles are great if the timing is right, but there can be negative implications from being too affectionate towards your kids all of the time. For example, they might start walking all over you once they’re older if you don’t set boundaries for them now- even if it’s just a short “no.” A lot of parents aren’t strict enough with their kids because they believe that this is what good parenting entails, but actually, the most effective parents are those that know when to put their foot down and be unemotional about it.

Make role-play a part of your child’s life:

This is a great way to help them learn how the world works and how they should properly interact with people in different types of situations. For instance, you could throw a tea party for one of your daughter’s stuffed toys and pretend to be the waiter, taking away her empty plate when she has finished eating and pretending to clean up after she is done playing. This will not only allow her to take control over her imaginary world but also help build her social skills because she will understand what good manners look like; instead of just copying other people around her who might behave inappropriately.

Tell your kids that you’re not perfect:

Even if you have been a role model for them up until this point, there will come a time when they get into their teenage years and start to think that their parents are idiots who know nothing about anything important in life- so why lie to them? Acknowledge the mistakes you’ve made in the past and admit what your faults are because it’s okay to be human.

Accept all of your child’s friends:

It can be difficult to understand why a certain person is an appropriate friend for one of your children but not another, but ultimately you shouldn’t impose rules on who they spend time with or which friends they bring home for dinner (unless something fishy is going on). Even if their friends aren’t the same social class or race as you, let your child make his own decisions and only interfere when it becomes necessary to do so.

Give your children pocket money- even if they are still in the infant stages of life:

This way they learn how to manage money from a young age. And don’t just give them enough for sweets, set some boundaries about what they can spend their allowance on by finding out what type of things they’re currently interested in (for example- Minecraft merchandise if that’s the thing right now).

Introduce board games into family life:

Even though most people have been glued to their TV screens for years with various forms of entertainment at their fingertips 24/7, it’s also really important to go back to the basics sometimes. Board games have been used for generations as a great way of spending time together and learning about each other.


The best way to teach your kids good morals is through discipline and explanation rather than spoiling them or giving in to their demands all of the time. Even though it might be difficult at times, teaching your child how to become a responsible adult who knows what they’re doing in life begins at home- so make sure you get to work.

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